If you’ve ever wondered “Why do I miss someone who has hurt me so much?” — here’s the truth most people never tell you: You’re not missing them. You’re missing the dopamine spikes, the temporary relief, the intensity your nervous system got used to… even if it came wrapped in pain. When the highs are rare but powerful, your brain learns to chase them like a reward. That’s why the longing feels so strong — it’s not love, it’s withdrawal. And the craziest part? Once those biochemical loops calm do